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In a submission fantasy, you make yourself vulnerable to the will of your partner in some way. Maybe you are blindfolded or handcuffed; or your partner whips or spanks you. This scenario can be especially thrilling if you're used to always being in control, Kerner explains. Imagine a CEO who spends the majority of her time telling others what to do and how to do it; she may be turned on by the idea of giving in completely to her sexual partner.
In some cases, submission fantasies can be therapeutic, too. For a survivor of sexual assult, the scenario that unfolds in her imagination may be related to her trauma: "The fantasy offers the chance to reactivate a painful memory, but be in control," Kerner says. He gives this example: "One woman I worked with who experienced date rape had a fantasy about being Super Girl, and her boyfriend is a villain with kryptonite that renders her weak.
A domination fantasy is all about being control, whether that means tying up your partner, or simply calling the shots on positions. This type of fantasy tends to be popular among women who are in relationships with traditional gender roles, says Kerner. Have you ever thought about getting busy with the blinds open, excited by the possibility that a neighbor might catch you in the act? Or have you thought about what it would be like to have your partner watch you masturbate?
If so, you may be turned on by so-called exhibitionism fantasies, another very common type of fantasy. An exhibitionism fantasy involves any scenario in which you perform a sexual act for an audience, whether it's your husband or girlfriend or an unsuspecting stranger. It can create a sense of vulnerability that can be a turn-on. Typically, sexual fantasies have one central theme, says Kerner: "Most of them involve some kind of power exchange.
Many movies and television shows have depicted voyeurism, which is the act of secretly watching others engage in sexual acts. But voyeurism doesn't just happen on the big screen; it's the stuff of many fantasies too. In a voyeuristic fantasy, you may want to watch your partner masturbate, for example, or spy on him via webcam. In pop culture, threesome fantasies are often portrayed as a point of contention for couples. But if you're in a committed relationship, says Kerner, a threesome fantasy probably has less to do with wanting sex with a stranger and more to do with wanting to see your partner in a state of pleasure.
Kerner says some couples interested in group sex will dip their toes into the scenario by going to a sex party and simply watching. If you're interested in actually trying a real-life threesome, Kerner suggests pitching the idea to your partner in a way that feels inclusive: Have an open dialogue about why you want to invite a third person in, he says. Rather, the idea is you'd be experimenting together. For some people, simply imagining or talking about their fantasies is enough to create arousal and sexual fulfillment.
But acting on your sexual fantasies is healthy as well, if done with proper communication. Discuss expectations and limits with your partner before doing anything new and kinky. And this goes without saying, but don't act on sexual fantasies that are illegal or inappropriate for the workplace. When you're ready to broach the topic with your partner, start by asking permission to share your fantasy, says Landes. When explaining your fantasy, consider how your partner feels about fantasies. Is she a dreamer, too? Does she think logically? You might talk about why you think you have a particular fantasy.
Also be sure to make it clear that you want to have the fantasy with your partner. If she is receptive, ask if she'd be interested in trying it. But if you partner isn't interested, be respectful of her decision, and try to understand where she's coming from. The bottom line: Your sex life can still be fulfilling whether or not it includes acting out your fantasies IRL. By Julia Naftulin Updated October 06, Save Pin More. Sex therapists uncover the desires behind fantasies of threesomes, bondage, spanking, and more.
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